The Things We Carry: Finding/Creating the Object and the Analyst’s Self-Reflective Participation

The Limit of Intimacy and the Intimacy of Limit: Play and its Relation to the Bad Object

Attachment to the bad object has remained a durable, undertheorized clinical problem. With an extended clinical example, the experience of limit, in both patient and analyst, is examined as part of a dense undercurrent in the relationship, including transference, that gives rise to shifts in understanding the attachment to an unsatisfying internal object. Importantly, the patient's and the analyst's experiences of limit are "in play" during the process of changes in the patient's attachment to the bad object. The relation of patient and analyst to the patient's internal objects, including bad and unsatisfying objects, is where play itself begins. Limit itself is constitutive of play. The analyst's attempt to analyze his own thoughts and experience regarding limits in maintaining an empathic connection to the patient's psychic reality influences the patient's capacity to take in a new part of his or her experience.

INSECURE ATTACHMENTS AND THEIR INTERMINGLING TRANSFERENCES

There are least two different but interrelated motivational systems in human beings both of which begin in infancy: the attachment system and the separate, but interacting, psychodynamic system. Each of these systems is the basis of transference. A major focus of the paper is the affect-regulating feature of the attachment system. Infants' emotional states can be well-regulated or dysregulated as they emerge in interactions with their primary caregiver. Aberrant interactions of dysregulation typically lead to the development of insecure or disorganized attachments. Rudimentary transference fantasies initially emerge as the child makes sense or meaning about such maladaptive interactions. Our complex minds comprise multi-determined, personally organized fantasies which include those derived from both the attachment system and the psychodynamic one. I present a clinical description of how these two transference fantasies intersect in the mental life of a patient. A clinical case is offered whose focus is on enactments, transferences, and countertransference.