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Peichich-Aizen T, Segal-Engelchin D. "Is There Room for Both Loves?": The Experience of Couplehood Among Women Living With a Widower With Young Children. Front Psychol 2022; 13:870467. [PMID: 35548520 PMCID: PMC9085357 DOI: 10.3389/fpsyg.2022.870467] [Citation(s) in RCA: 0] [Impact Index Per Article: 0] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Abstract] [Key Words] [Track Full Text] [Download PDF] [Journal Information] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Received: 02/06/2022] [Accepted: 03/22/2022] [Indexed: 12/05/2022] Open
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Very few studies to date have explored the couplehood relationship in blended families with young children created after widowhood. This study sought to add to our knowledge of this issue by examining the couplehood experience of women who started a family with a widower with young children, with no children of their own. Semi-structured interviews were conducted with 30 Israeli women aged 32-78 years. The findings indicate that many participants feel that the deceased wife continues to be present in their partner's life and that she is an integral part of their couplehood relationship. The participants described two subsystems existing alongside the couple subsystem with their partner, namely, the partner's spousal subsystem with his first wife; and a triadic subsystem consisting of the woman, her partner, and his deceased wife. The perceived presence of the first wife raised poignant questions concerning the place of the two women in the partner's life. Participants' narratives revealed the dissonance between understanding and acknowledging their partner's continuing bond with and affection for his deceased wife on the one hand, and recognition of his love for them on the other hand. The findings shed light on the complexity inherent in a couple relationship with a widower and may assist professionals who provide support to blended families in understanding the unique challenges faced by these women. This would enable them to tailor their counseling and the therapeutic process to the particular needs of these women.
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- Spitzer Department of Social Work, Ben-Gurion University of the Negev, Be’er Sheva, Israel
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Pollock Star A, Cohn-Schwartz E, O'Rourke N. Reciprocal Effects of Marital Idealization and Marital Satisfaction Between Long-Wed Spouses Over Time. Int J Aging Hum Dev 2022; 95:440-454. [PMID: 35224996 DOI: 10.1177/00914150221077953] [Citation(s) in RCA: 0] [Impact Index Per Article: 0] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Abstract] [Key Words] [Track Full Text] [Journal Information] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 11/16/2022]
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Marital idealization is defined as an interpersonal mode of self-deception whereby husbands and wives convey an exceedingly positive portrayal of their spouse and relationship (e.g., "My spouse has never made me angry"). For the Marriage and Health Study, we obtained responses from 119 long-wed couples at baseline, 1- and 2-years later (M = 34 years married). We first computed and compared contemporaneous actor-partner interdependence models (APIMs) suggesting that marital satisfaction predicts marital idealization within and between spouses; the reverse APIM was not supported (i.e., marital idealization did not predict marital satisfaction). Yet our analyses suggest the question should be answered with longitudinal data. When reported contemporaneously, husbands' marital satisfaction predicts marital idealization by their wives. The same cross-over effect is observed for wives-but not concomitantly, only in future. That is, marital satisfaction and idealization reported by wives predicts marital idealization reported by their husbands 2-years later.
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- Ariel Pollock Star
- Department of Public Health and Multidisciplinary Center for Research on Aging, 85456Ben-Gurion University of the Negev, Be'er Sheva, Israel
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- Department of Public Health and Multidisciplinary Center for Research on Aging, 85456Ben-Gurion University of the Negev, Be'er Sheva, Israel
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- Department of Public Health and Multidisciplinary Center for Research on Aging, 85456Ben-Gurion University of the Negev, Be'er Sheva, Israel
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Blanner C, Elliott A, Hjorth P, Søndergaard J, Mattisson C, Andersen K. Experiences of becoming widowed in old age - a cross-countries study with qualitative interviews from Denmark and quantitative measures of association in a Swedish sample. Int J Qual Stud Health Well-being 2021; 16:1871181. [PMID: 33541253 PMCID: PMC8725736 DOI: 10.1080/17482631.2020.1871181] [Citation(s) in RCA: 0] [Impact Index Per Article: 0] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Abstract] [Key Words] [Track Full Text] [Download PDF] [Journal Information] [Submit a Manuscript] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 11/25/2022] Open
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Purpose: Becoming widowed is a stressful health-threatening event causing major life changes. We explored how widowed people experience becoming widowed and examined if these experiences are quantitatively associated with widowhood. Methods: A multi-methods study using an exploratory sequential mixed-methods approach including a qualitative descriptive study with widowed people from Denmark and a Swedish cohort study. Qualitative interviews (n = 9) were analysed using qualitative content analysis, describing experiences as explained by the widowed people. The quantitative association of the experiences was examined by identifying proxies for the qualitative experiences of widowhood in the cohort study and examining the occurrence in widowed people compared to married people (n = 1,095). Results: Six categories of experiences emerged: the circumstances around spousal death, mental health and well-being, physical health, social relations, activities and practicalities. The quantitative examination showed a significant association with widowhood regarding mental and physical health problems. Conclusion: The circumstances around spousal death and the time before spousal death, in general, were important to how participants felt being widowed. Being ill negatively affected mental health and well-being, partly because of the inability to participate in activities and social relations. This is important, as health problems are more common among widowed people than married people.
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- Christina Blanner
- Department of Mental Health Odense, Mental Health Services in the Region of Southern Denmark , Odense, Denmark.,Department of Clinical Research, University of Southern Denmark , Odense, Denmark
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- Department of Psychiatry, Mental Health Services in the Region of Southern Denmark , Esbjerg, Denmark
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- Department of Regional Health Research, University of Southern Denmark , Odense, Denmark.,Centre for Psychiatric Nursing and Health Care Research , Odense, Denmark
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- Research Unit for General Practice, Department of Public Health, University of Southern Denmark , Odense, Denmark
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- Division of Psychiatry, Department of Clinical Sciences Lund, Faculty of Medicine, Lund University , Lund, Sweden
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- Department of Mental Health Odense, Mental Health Services in the Region of Southern Denmark , Odense, Denmark.,Department of Clinical Research, University of Southern Denmark , Odense, Denmark
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Carmel S, King DB, O'Rourke N, Bachner YG. Subjective well-being: gender differences in Holocaust survivors-specific and cross-national effects. Aging Ment Health 2017; 21:668-675. [PMID: 26891338 DOI: 10.1080/13607863.2016.1148660] [Citation(s) in RCA: 16] [Impact Index Per Article: 2.3] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Abstract] [Key Words] [Track Full Text] [Journal Information] [Submit a Manuscript] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 10/22/2022]
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OBJECTIVES Subjective well-being (SWB) has become an important concept in evaluating older adults' quality of life. The cognitive and emotional evaluations which are used to appraise it differ in structure, characteristics, and effects on life. The purpose of this study was to support hypotheses regarding expected Holocaust survivors-specific effects and cross-cultural differences on three indicators of SWB. METHOD We recruited samples of 50 male and female Israeli Holocaust survivors, other older Israelis, and older Canadians (N = 300) for allowing us to distinguish survivors-specific effects from cross-national differences. State anxiety, depressive symptoms, and life-satisfaction were compared across groups of men and women. Where univariate differences were detected, post hoc comparisons were computed to determine which of the groups significantly differed. RESULTS In general, a higher level of SWB was found among Canadians in comparison to both comparative Israeli groups. Level of depressive symptoms was significantly higher among women survivors than in the other two groups. Both groups of Israeli women had higher scores on anxiety than Canadian Women; less apparent were differences across groups of men. Life-satisfaction did not differ among the groups. CONCLUSIONS Our findings regarding depression support the survivor-specific effect hypothesis for women, and a national effect on anxiety, but not any effect on life-satisfaction. These findings suggest significant differences in impacts of traumatic life events on cognitive versus emotional indicators of SWB. This issue should be further investigated due to its practical implications in use of various measures of SWB with people who experienced traumatic events.
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- Sara Carmel
- a Center for Multidisciplinary Research in Aging, and Department of Public Health , Ben-Gurion University of the Negev , Beer-Sheva , Israel
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- b IRMACS Centre , Simon Fraser University , Burnaby (BC) , Canada
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- a Center for Multidisciplinary Research in Aging, and Department of Public Health , Ben-Gurion University of the Negev , Beer-Sheva , Israel
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- a Center for Multidisciplinary Research in Aging, and Department of Public Health , Ben-Gurion University of the Negev , Beer-Sheva , Israel
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Ben-Zur H. Social and Temporal Comparisons as Moderators of Psychological Resources Associations With Wellbeing. JOURNAL OF INDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES 2016. [DOI: 10.1027/1614-0001/a000193] [Citation(s) in RCA: 3] [Impact Index Per Article: 0.4] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Abstract] [Track Full Text] [Journal Information] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 11/23/2022]
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Abstract. The current study investigated the associations of psychological resources, social comparisons, and temporal comparisons with general wellbeing. The sample included 142 community participants (47.9% men; age range 23–83 years), who compared themselves with others, and with their younger selves, on eight dimensions (e.g., physical health, resilience). They also completed questionnaires assessing psychological resources of mastery and self-esteem, and three components of subjective wellbeing: life satisfaction and negative and positive affect. The main results showed that high levels of psychological resources contributed to wellbeing, with self-enhancing social and temporal comparisons moderating the effects of resources on certain wellbeing components. Specifically, under low levels of mastery or self-esteem self-enhancing social or temporal comparisons were related to either higher life satisfaction or positive affect. The results highlight the role of resources and comparisons in promoting people’s wellbeing, and suggest that self-enhancing comparisons function as cognitive coping mechanisms when psychological resources are low.
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Praising the dead: On the motivational tendency and psychological function of eulogizing the deceased. MOTIVATION AND EMOTION 2016. [DOI: 10.1007/s11031-016-9545-y] [Citation(s) in RCA: 9] [Impact Index Per Article: 1.1] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Track Full Text] [Journal Information] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 11/26/2022]
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Czajkowska Z, Radiotis G, Roberts N, Körner A. Cognitive adaptation to nonmelanoma skin cancer. J Psychosoc Oncol 2013; 31:377-92. [PMID: 23844920 DOI: 10.1080/07347332.2013.798757] [Citation(s) in RCA: 2] [Impact Index Per Article: 0.2] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Abstract] [Track Full Text] [Journal Information] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 10/26/2022]
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Taylor's (1983) cognitive adaptation theory posits that when people go through life transitions, such as being diagnosed with a chronic disease, they adjust to their new reality. The adjustment process revolves around three themes: search for positive meaning in the experience or optimism, attempt to regain a sense of mastery in life, as well as an effort to enhance self-esteem. In the sample of 57 patients with nonmelanoma skin cancer the Cognitive Adaptation Index successfully predicted participants' distress (p < .001) accounting for 60% of the variance and lending support for the Taylor's theory of cognitive adaptation in this population.
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- Zofia Czajkowska
- Department of Educational & Counselling Psychology, McGill University, Montreal, Quebec H3A 1Y2, Canada.
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Ben-Zur H. Loneliness, Optimism, and Well-Being Among Married, Divorced, and Widowed Individuals. THE JOURNAL OF PSYCHOLOGY 2012; 146:23-36. [DOI: 10.1080/00223980.2010.548414] [Citation(s) in RCA: 56] [Impact Index Per Article: 4.7] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Track Full Text] [Journal Information] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 02/01/2023] Open
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O'Rourke N. Personality, Cognitive Adaptation, and Marital Satisfaction as Predictors of Well-Being among Older Married Adults. Can J Aging 2010; 24:211-24. [PMID: 16421846 DOI: 10.1353/cja.2005.0081] [Citation(s) in RCA: 13] [Impact Index Per Article: 0.9] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Abstract] [MESH Headings] [Track Full Text] [Journal Information] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 01/06/2023] Open
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ABSTRACTThe current study examines constructs that contribute to the well-being of an international sample of older married adults. A convenience sample of 208 participants was recruited through an Internet site as well as more traditional means such as newspaper advertisements and contact with community groups. The resulting structural equation model provides further support for the revised theory of cognitive adaptation. Within this model, the direct and indirect contributions of personality, marital satisfaction, and cognitive adaptation are examined in relation to well-being. Contrary to previous findings, personality appears to have an indirect effect upon both marital satisfaction and well-being. Cognitive adaptation, in contrast, has both a direct and indirect effect upon the well-being of older adults. Limitations of use of the Internet as a vehicle for data collection are considered as well as directions for future study.
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- Norm O'Rourke
- Department of Gerontology, Simon Fraser University at Harbour Centre, 515 West Hastings Street, Suite #2800, Vancouver, BC, V6B 5K3, Canada.
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Cappeliez P, O'Rourke N. Empirical Validation of a Model of Reminiscence and Health in Later Life. J Gerontol B Psychol Sci Soc Sci 2006; 61:P237-44. [PMID: 16855036 DOI: 10.1093/geronb/61.4.p237] [Citation(s) in RCA: 87] [Impact Index Per Article: 4.8] [Reference Citation Analysis] [Abstract] [MESH Headings] [Track Full Text] [Journal Information] [Subscribe] [Scholar Register] [Indexed: 11/14/2022] Open
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This study addresses the adaptive value of functions of reminiscence with respect to physical and mental health in later life. A model examining the relationships between the functions of reminiscence and life satisfaction, psychiatric distress, and health is presented and tested. Self-positive (reminiscence for Identity, Death Preparation, and Problem Solving) and self-negative (reminiscence for Boredom Reduction, Bitterness Revival, and Intimacy Maintenance) functions have statistically significant and direct associations with the well-being of this sample of older adults, the first positively and the second negatively. Prosocial functions (reminiscence for Conversation, and to Teach-Inform Others) appear to have no direct link with health. Self-functions appear to have an important and lasting influence on physical and mental health, whereas prosocial functions may affect health by means of their role in emotional regulation.
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- Philippe Cappeliez
- School of Psychology, University of Ottawa, 11 Marie Curie Street, Ottawa, Canada K1N 6N5.
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This study examines the extent to which various forms of reminiscence predict life satisfaction and psychiatric distress with and without control for the contribution of personality traits (n=420). Among older adults, reminiscences to revive old problems and to fill a void of stimulation were associated with lower life satisfaction and greater psychiatric distress. Reminiscence to maintain connection with a departed person also predicted psychiatric distress. In contrast, reminiscences for death preparation and to foster conversation were linked with higher life satisfaction. Based on our proposed model of the functions of reminiscence, discussion focuses on adaptive and non-adaptive uses of reminiscence in later life.
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- P Cappeliez
- School of Psychology, University of Ottawa, Ottawa (ON), Canada.
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