Very Present and Very Real: A Case Study of Regularly Hearing the Voice of the Deceased Without Distress in Bereavement

Although sensory and quasi-sensory experiences of the deceased (SED) have been the subject of much debate, research on the phenomenology of auditory verbal experiences in the bereaved has been neglected. This case study describes the phenomenology of a regularly occurring voice hearing experience and its meaning for a single bereaved individual. The voice of the deceased can be heard as though in external space, and the experience can feel real, even when the death is fully acknowledged. A bereaved individual can welcome and benefit from the experience even when it is not recognized as a normal part of grieving in the individual's cultural context, when no afterlife belief is present, and when the experience remains unexplained. The case study demonstrates that hearing the voice of the deceased can be a regular occurrence without causing distress or dysfunction and lends support to the idea that SED are a common concomitant of normal bereavement.

When experiences of presence go awry: A survey on psychotherapy practice with the ambivalent-to-distressing 'hallucination' of the deceased

OBJECTIVES

Experiences of presence, involving the sensory perception or felt presence of the deceased, are common amongst the bereaved (30-60%). Despite them being predominantly comforting and reassuring, a minority (approximately 25%) report ambivalent or distressing experiences. The study's aim was to explore how psychotherapy is practised with this subset.

METHOD

A mixed-method approach, involving both quantitative analysis and thematic analysis, was used to analyse data from an online survey, conducted in English and Spanish, amongst mental health therapists (i.e., psychologists, psychotherapists, and counsellors). Seventy responded to the survey and four of them were further interviewed.

RESULTS

The participants primarily framed interventions for ambivalent-to-distressing experiences of presence as grief therapy, with the severity of the presentation as the main factor influencing their clinical decision-making, but several perspectives co-existed regarding how to intervene. These discourses were categorized into two themes: 'A normalising and exploratory psychotherapy' and 'A grief stages psychotherapy'. The main sources of patient's distress, as understood by the sample, were located in the bereaved-departed relationship, in pre-existing mental health issues, and in a societal taboo or stigma.

CONCLUSION

After comparing and contrasting the participants' working hypotheses with existing knowledge on experiences of presence, and contemporary theories in the research area, guidelines are presented on how to intervene with people disturbed by their experiences of presence.

PRACTITIONER POINTS

Perceiving the deceased person, or feeling their presence, is common and normal amongst bereaved people. When these experiences are distressing or ambivalent, therapists' share that psychological suffering may originate from the departed-bereaved relationship, pre-existing mental health issues, or the effect of societal taboo or stigma. Psychotherapy is frequently aimed at normalizing, accepting, supporting, and exploring patient's experience.